Christmas can be a very difficult time of year, here are some reason’s why:
- Financial pressure – the pressure to buy gifts for all, the pressure to put on a large feast, the pressure to attend lots of Christmas parties that can attract costs.
- Feeling alone – a lot of people feel extremely alone this time of year, they might not have family or friends to celebrate with on Christmas day and this can be quite upsetting.
- Existential meaning – what is the meaning behind Christmas??? And for Kids, is Santa real??? This can be a confusing time of year, especially with the commercialism surrounding Christmas.
- Painful memories – Christmas is said to be a time where family come together, for those who have lost loved ones events such as Christmas can bring up painful memories of that loss.
- Less support and services – A lot of the time businesses close over the Christmas and New Year period, services such as Mechanics, Plumbers, Counseling agencies, Lawyers etc the support that we sometimes rely on can be taken away from us or provided at a huge expense adding to financial pressure.
So if you don’t find yourself bopping along to Christmas carols, or getting excited at all the decorations in the shops, or you don’t want to buy gifts for anyone or do anything on Christmas day your reality might be that for you, Christmas isn’t the most wonderful time of the year! There is a lot wrong with Christmas for you and that is okay, you are not a scrooge, you are not alone, there is nothing wrong with you!
We want to encourage you to know that during this hard time there are things you can do to cope:
- Make a budget and stick to it, sometimes this can be easier said than done, so some ways to help you not get caught up in the moment could be by preparing friends and family that you won’t be buying gifts this year or by suggesting a “secret santa” type of gift exchange.
- If you don’t want to feel alone, there are some places that can help with this! Check out your local church for their group events on Christmas Day or even community events such as Christmas Lunch in the Park.
- Do some research, ask questions, feel confident to say what you do believe or don’t believe in. Be honest with your kids, if they are confused about Santa honesty is always the best policy.
- Allow yourself to be aware of the painful memories that may arise this time of year for you, and do what you need to do to cope with that. Either by seeking support through this time or by having a special memorial moment on the day for lost loved ones.
- Be prepared by marking on the calendar when services you rely on will be closed for and have some back up ones ready to call if need be.
For any and all Counseling enquiries or to see a Counselor you can call us from Monday to Friday over the entire Christmas and New Year break, we do not close and we will have Counselors available for appointments if needed.
Have a blessed day and blessed month of December.